Self-doubt – It’s something we all face at some point of our lives. We are not born to be completely confident people, but rather something we build over time. Some of us are still not able to live to our full potential because we don’t feel ready and fear the consequences when stepping out of our bubble. Here are some of the steps you can take to boost self-confidence. It’s time to rock it and own it.
#1 Start each day with gratitude
Begin your day with a positive perspective and you will be in the right frame of mind for the rest of the day. Reflect upon things that made you feel good yesterday. Remember, that it doesn’t need to be reserved only for momentous occasions. It can be as simple as appreciating that rich taste of caffeine or opening a door for someone.
#2 Discard negative thoughts
Those little gremlins lurking in your head are not healthy and are not easy to get rid of. So, what can you do to clear your mind from negative thinking?
- Fix your body language. Are you slouching with a closed stance? Are you frowning? If yes, then you’re more likely to think negatively. If you’re in an emotional state, it’s only natural to start having bad thoughts. Try to sit up straight in a confident manner; open your stance and smile more. This will help you in feeling a lot better.
- When there’re so many things racing through around your head, it can be hard to control your thoughts; especially the negative one. Spend a minute or two to calm your mind. It’s like meditating. When it’s clear, then try to fill your mind with good thoughts.
- Sometimes, negative thinking derives from a negative perspective. Try to see a situation through a different lens for a better view. For example, instead of thinking, “I’m going through a difficult time,” think “I’m facing some challenges, but I’m working on finding solutions.” You are basically saying the same thing but with a more positive tone to the latter.
- More often than not, our thoughts are a product of our environment. For example, if you surround yourself with negative people and imagery, you’d probably start to think negatively in turn. Take a walk alone away from your usual atmosphere to somewhere uplifting like a park, art exhibition or even to grab your favourite snack. It’ll bring you peace of mind.
- Talk it out if you have to. Sometimes bad thoughts occur because you are dealing with some issues or are feeling emotional about something. Putting things into words gives your thoughts shape and form. This can help you put things into better perspective, so you can deal with them at the root of the problem.
#3 Identify your weaknesses and work on them
It’s important to focus on your strength and shine through them. However, recognising your weaknesses is vital too because they are the ones that are lowering your self-esteem. Remind yourself that there’s always a room for improvement. For instance, you might be feeling petrified talking in front of hundreds of people, but you’re enhancing that skill by taking a public speaking course. Getting better at doing something will develop your confidence and fulfilment simultaneously.
#4 Stop comparing yourself to others
There will always be someone who is better than you. If you focus on this, you won’t be able to see that others may not have the same opportunity as you do. Remember that everyone has different goals and targets. Set your own instead of taking someone else’s and you will feel more confident within yourself.
#5 Get out of your comfort zone
Avoid getting trapped inside a shrinking comfort zone by pushing yourself to do things that are outside of it. It’s one of the ways of getting to know yourself more. We’ve all had experiences where we’ve done something that terrified us, and then discovered it wasn’t so bad. You are capable of so much more than you ever believed. Start with something simple like smiling at everyone you meet, learning a new skill, eating alone in a restaurant or taking public transport instead of driving.
#6 Learn to accept praises
We all want to be acknowledged and appreciated. But, when someone gives a compliment, we start to deflect it by putting ourselves down, thinking it was just luck or assuming the person doesn’t really mean it and etc. Often times, this is because of low self esteem thatmakes you think that you don’t deserve it. This needs to stop. The next time someone praises you, just accept it and believe that you’re worthy. If you don’t know how to react and not be awkward, just smile and say, ‘thank you’.
#7 Set a small goal and achieve it
People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Why not start setting smaller goals to achieve the ultimate target? Let’s say your big and exciting goal is to lose 5kg. You could set a small goal of losing 1kg a month. Even better, you can set a goal of sticking to your diet or going to the gym 3 times a week. When you begin to see yourself accomplish these little goals of yours, you will begin to believe that you can do anything.
#8 Practise confidence
It is said that self-confidence is a skill that can be gained over time. All you have to do is practise the small things, one at a time on a regular basis. Slowly and surely you’ll get there.
We hope that these suggestions will help you in becoming more confident. Although none of them are revolutionary, they will surely increase self-esteem. Just pick and choose the one that appeal to you.